You wanna be all tl;dr when I took the time to respond to you, but you also thanked juliana for her response since no1 wrote you a tome in response to a one sentence ask post? Imma let you finish, but you’re not here for any kind of conversation - let alone critical discourse.
IF your main point was wrt ‘cunt’ and gay cis dudes using the word then that’s one thing, but you didn’t frame it that way at all. You’ve also said that your shade for the cunts tee was personal after Adam called you a bitch. IDK/IDC when you tacked the idea that gay dudes praising femininity comes at the expense of masculine women, but none of your arguments or opinions follow any kind of logic other than b/c-i-said-so.
It’s rly 2 bad that you don’t seem to engage unless individuals pass yr privilege checklist based on what limited info you can glean from a web/social media presence? You go looking for shit to dig on people 4 in order to frame it as a call-out when they disagree witchu. You derailed the opportunity to have a conversation about feminism/queerness with the ad hominem attack on a fucking tumblr URL.
Like say my instagram that yr lurkin/screenshotting/photoshopping. Half of the folks in that picture are POC, and the DJ is plugging her ears, not throwing up peace signs. It wouldn’t have anything to do with a POC friend being handed a bunch of crackers on her way to the bar on sunday night and sharing them with friends. If you’re interested in unpacking the racism inherent in that for me I’m totes curious cuz I don’t see it (yes, it’s not your job to educate me either.)
More than one queer person, person of color, and woman has approached me IRL after this (which is weird because I don’t broadcast much online) and thanked me for saying something that “we were all thinking.” Also you’ve been called out on the images of black women that you post in terms of appropriation although it seems to have been disappeared. Basically lots of people don’t share your opinions, disagree with your interpretation of things, or don’t like your methods so they don’t engage with you … because you don’t do discourse. You insult and go after peoples work or blogs using personal attacks that aren’t germane to the conversation.
Your response here even included a little dig at the class you perceive me to be a part of (“trip$ to siberia.”) I had to complete some kind of study abroad to finish one of my degrees, the siberia trip was one of the cheapest and shortest trips available. It was one of the only ways I could fulfill the requirement without losing my job or breaking my bank account. You’ve got no clue wether or not I was on financial aid, how the trip was paid for, or like… IDK do you think siberia is a fabulous and exciting place to visit? It’s kinda bleak and full of racist homophobes. **ETA: also the food was groce **
EVEN if we are gonna play privilege tennis, which was your method for ignoring/silencing me right off the bat, u don’t kno me. FYI my reality includes being the only breadwinner in a family that consists of two elderly women on fixed incomes, not to mention a mentally retarded sibling (& my only sib) who will be on a wait list for another SEVEN YEARS before he is eligible for any kind of job training or placement. So maybe i’m even winning on the privilege front with you thanks to class/ableism whatever, but that’s not the fucking point of social justice or intersectionality, and frankly it shouldn’t fucking matter when those topics aren’t the ones in question. It’s none of yr business.
You chose to ignore a (non-angry) succinct response from me that addressed your concerns. I used a lil bit of slang because formal academic approaches are the language of the fucking oppressor. I didn’t attack you personally (thx 4 that.) I acknowledged that if you think my URL is racist then there’s not shit I can do to change your perception of me, and if anyone ever anywhere using that word makes them a white supremacist in your book that’s your line to draw (for you not all POC.) I attempted to illustrate my lack of ignorance surrounding the term, and I did my best to focus my response on the original topic at hand and the one that I am entitled to hold opinions about given my outsider status as a “masculine” queer “female-bodied” person. You didn’t.
Shoot from the hip responses to everything, sending me messages 3x in an hour when I don’t respond fast enough 4u and trolling my web presence? That’s anger. Bad netiquette yo. Maybe ur new to the whole idea, but big nerd over here has been rolling this way for almost two decades. Showing up to my party and hating on everyone involved when you’ve been there for five minutes? Ditto aggro. The only original content I’ve ever seen come from you is shaaaade shade shade and a mix tapes (playlists.) I guess when anyone gets formal or disagrees with you it’s anger, but you trying to read people you don’t know isn’t?
It’s cool if you’re mad newayz, anger is a valid part of any conversation around privilege - but maybe yr just not the righteous sj conversationalist u think ur. I was and am genuinely curious as to yr own personal manifesto. I can and do speak that language but you don’t offer constructive anything. Problematizing when queers, POC, and women are out there making radical art? I’m not here 4 that.